Eaten up

You won’t address the vicious cycle of busyness that you’re in simply by getting more efficient, or going faster, or keeping going for longer.

It looks like that’s the way to salvation, but in fact you’re just digging yourself in deeper.

Because it’s likely that there’s an endless list of things for you to do. Going faster completes more of them, more quickly. But it also reveals to you just how much more there is that still needs your attention.

No, efficiency and speed and longer hours on their own simply feed the cycle. And while you may feel heroic, or important, or that your endless effort is unquestionably needed by everyone, you’re on a path which becomes ever more vicious in its capacity to consume you.

It’s time to step out of the more and faster story. Give up wearing your busyness as a badge of honour, so that you can discover a new way of doing what matters.

Here’s a risky, brave and life-changing alternative, one that’s going to call on you to know yourself in a whole new way:

a) Decide what’s genuinely important and what’s not.

Saying no is the single biggest liberation here.

b) Give up on the story that it’s all down to you.

Asking for help from others and being prepared to tolerate the uncertainty and risk this involves is the key (which means giving up your insistence on control, because you cannot control when and how another will take up what you’re asking of them).

c) Start to take caring for yourself very seriously indeed

Because your capacity to do (a) and (b) is directly proportional to your energy, clarity and courage, none of which are helped by being exhausted, frazzled and overwrought.

Radical? It may seem so from in the midst of the stress or excitement of being always on the go.

But it is, perhaps, at last a chance to rescue yourself and your life from being eaten up whole.

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One thought on “Eaten up

  1. The vicious cycle of busyness is a hard one to break. For many of us, we associate it with our sense of worth, our identity. Who will I be if I’m not busy? It’s also scary not to know where our thoughts will go once our brain stops juggling all the trivial tasks. Awareness is certainly a good first steps.

    Good post!

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