Nine ways we grasp for safety

Nine ways we try to make ourselves safe:

If I can make myself and everything around me perfect

If I can make other people love me and depend upon me…

If I can look successful in the eyes of others…

If I can be uniquely, expressively myself…

If I can understand the complexity of the world, from end to end…

If I can stay alert to all the dangers of the world and prepare for them…

If I can distract myself with pleasure…

If I can control and dominate others…

If I can not get angry and make sure nobody else ever gets angry with me…

… then I’ll feel safe.

Which of these do you recognise in yourself?

And do any of them, really, work out?

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