So much of what seems so obviously true about other people is, if you look closely, a product of the particular way you see things. It might well be that your judgements arise precisely because of the categories you are insisting other people fit into.
Your obsession with detail – has other people show up for you as unreliable, chaotic, or inconsistent.
Your refusal to engage with emotions – has others show up as soft, or flaky.
Your insistence that everything is treated as black or white, right or wrong – has others show up as incomprehensible to you.
Your longing to be loved, to be seen – has others show up as uncaring.
So what would happen if you treated your many judgements about others (your criticisms, your comparisons) as telling you nothing about them and everything about yourself?
