Trust is easy to misunderstand.
The most common mistake is to say “I’ll only trust when I know you’re trustworthy”. But this is trust without risk. Trust without putting yourself on the line. Trust as a demand. Trust without trust.
Genuine trust does not come about this way. Instead, it’s brought into being by your courage, openness, and willingness to risk that things won’t work out the way you hoped. Genuine trust requires you to not know how things are going to go. It can never be a demand, but must be an invitation to act, and an invitation to keep talking when things don’t work out as you’d hoped. More than anything else, genuine trust is an invitation into a relationship that you’re committed to even when things go wrong.
When you offer trust, but only on condition that nothing is placed at risk, can you say that you’re really inviting trust at all?