Of course sincerity is often difficult, because we’re afraid of its consequences. We’re frightened that if we speak truthfully we’ll fall short of other people’s standards,
or we’re afraid they won’t love us any more.
We’re afraid it’ll get in the way of our looking good,
or we’re afraid people won’t understand us.
We’re afraid it will open a can of worms,
or we’re afraid our words, once spoken, will box us in to a future we do not want.
We’re afraid that owning up to what we really mean will make us look weak,
or that it will cause conflict we’d much rather avoid.
And because of all these fears we twist ourselves, distort ourselves, so that what comes out of our mouths no longer chimes with the wishes, longing, and intention of our hearts and conscience. Perhaps, as I know I do, you struggle with this daily, finding yourself looking sincere but knowing all the ways you’ve fallen short, again. Perhaps you know this is only human. Perhaps you’re starting to see the cost to yourself, and to others. Because there’s only so much twisting a human heart can take, I think. At some point we each have to start teaching ourselves that the price of our insincerity is far greater than we had imagined, and the consequences of our fears, far less.